This is only a minor rant, but it’s something I feel I need to get off my chest
Recently I have found that most gay porn stars will only really communicate with people better well known than them or stars who can further said “porn stars” career (and just to clarify I am NOT referring to one single person).
I personally find that I am happy working in porn with most people, well known or now. I have worked with newbies, old pro’s and in between. I don’t need to work with well known names to further my career. Not that I am going to turn down a shoot with someone well known. At the end of the day it is work, which I am always extremely grateful for. I will not name drop and make a big deal out of people I know or have worked with, nor will I be picky and make comments like “I will never work with newbies again” as I full well know how nerve wracking it is to do your first porn shoot. You were a newbie once and someone gave you that chance, respect that and don’t be a dick.
My other issue is arrogance. Arrogance has never sat well with me and I have made a point of avoiding people who are overly cocky and arrogant. There is no need to put yourself above everyone else, you do gay porn and I do gay porn, at the end of the day we both suck cock on camera and get fucked/fuck on camera as well, there is very little difference between me and you and what we do. Yes you may get paid more, get more work etc, but that’s all you see it as…you don’t respect the industry and you certainly don’t respect other people within the industry. I personally love doing porn, and in all honesty I am probably one of very few people who actually genuinely love doing porn.
I know I am not your stereotypical porn star, I don’t have muscles, I don’t have the biggest cock and I’m not the best looking. I am fully aware of these facts and I do try to work on what I have got. I am very willing to do new things, I do have a big cock, I am a very good bottom (all this is what I have been told by other people so I am not being arrogant or bragging).
I do realize that arrogance, self-importance and over-confidence are a huge part of being in porn, straight or gay and I am sorry but I cannot conform to a stereotype within a minority of a minority. Being gay is bad enough in this world (as I am sure you know), however being gay and doing porn is considered in the UK as not a very good thing and there is a huge stigma attached to doing porn in the UK which is that if you do porn you must have numerous STD’s and have HIV etc. This is a common misconception and totally without fact, however, when a gay man doing porn is getting hassle and stick from other gay men (who no doubt have watched porn) makes me so angry. But what makes me more angrier is when you are a bi-sexual man doing porn, gay/straight/bisexual and getting hassle from every factor…now THAT is unacceptable. Yes I am bi-sexual, no I am not confused, yes I am happy…stop judging me, and stop being so narrow minded. You were unaccepted for a long time and now you have a reasonable amount of equality, it does NOT give you the right to now pass judgement and criticize what I do with my life. You are taking this whole equality movement back by 10 steps, you are not helping…stop being so narrow minded and accept the fact that there might actually be people out there who do prefer either sex.
Back to the porn bit. Yes I have had issues with JP Dubois recently, as I am sure you would have seen on Twitter. I do NOT wish bad on him, and this is purely a clash of personalities and opinions in my opinion (whether he agrees or not is his choice), I do NOT wish bad on him as a few of you are suggesting and I certainly an not jealous of him or his achievements. I respect what he has done and congratulate him for it. However, we do not blend as personalities and seem to disagree on numerous things. I am fine with this and am willing to keep our contact professional and leave it at that. If I was asked to work with him, I would not say no as it is work (I doubt whether this opinion is shared but that’s my outlook).
All in all I love working in porn, even though in the UK it cannot be made into a full time career unless you’re awesome. I will always support this industry and follow it through thick and thin. I do realize I don’t get a lot of work and that maybe to the fact I am not the stereotypical porn star, I am not a clone and I don’t have the typical porn body. Yet, I went to America and managed to get 4-5 shoots out there, yes not for huge major studios that every seems to be clamoring to get work for, but I managed to get shoots. I am not expecting any American studio to pay for my flights and accommodation out there, as that would be extortionate, rude and highly anticipatory. I went out to America to see friends I met off Twitter, @Gambit244, @FanForeskin, @TommyWellsNet and numerous others. I luckily managed to get work out there and will continue to do so when I next go out there, because I have made those connections out of my own pocket and time.
So to bring this to a close, I would love to see more porn stars really respect and appreciate the work they do. Models not turning up to shoots and cancelling etc really grinds me, they have been given an opportunity of work, which in this climate is very few and far between. I am very happy to work and very excited when I get a job. Porn will never be out of the shadows and dark when the people involved in it don’t give it the respect it deserves.
Come on people, respect one of the oldest professions in the world, the sex industry. Stop judging us, stop the conflict and bitchiness within the industry and for fucks sake respect each other!
Now I better get to sleep because I have to find a way to get to Berlin Friday morning lol!